Tips to deal with anxiety

Dealing with anxiety is a daily accurance. It almost never goes away. Because of this, it can sometimes get in the way of your normal day to day activities. Having dealt with anxiety myself for many years, here are a few tips that have helped me on many occasions.

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I am starting with the one that has helped me the most and that is downloading an app that helps people with anxiety. This may seem straightforward, but I have had people look at me funny when I tell them I have the app Calm on my phone to help me.
Now, there are a dozen different apps to download and use but Calm is the one I chose. It has many different things to help you. Not only when you have an anxiety attack but also to help you understand and control your anxiety. There are different subjects that it can help you with. For example, stress, focus, self-care or personal growth.

My favourite one is Breathe. This is the one I wanted to talk about. It shows a circle that in turn shows you when to breathe in, hold and breath out again. For me, this has helped a lot during my anxiety attacks.

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Anxiety is something that, for the most part, goes on in our heads. So, it can be a good idea to write down any thoughts you have that you think that relate to your anxiety. What I mean by this is that there are moments where you won’t do something because a voice in your head tells you not to. Write this down. This way, you can see what activities, which places or even which people are difficult areas for you. When you know the cause, you can start the process of overcoming your anxiety.

You don’t only have to write about the negative things. One day, you will have ignored that voice in your head and still went to that restaurants with your friends! It may seem as a small win, but you should be very proud of yourself. Write it down in your journal so you can look back at your wins at a later time when things are starting to get bad again.

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During an anxiety attack I, for example, want to be alone to catch my breath and calm myself down. Offcourse this will be different from anyone else. But, for the people who are like me in this department, you can take a break from whatever you are doing to calm yourself down. This is something I struggled with for a long time. I would wait until the evening when I was alone to finally deal with the attack. Holding it in is only making it worse. Tell the person, or don’t if you don’t want to, that you need to calm down for a minute.

This one time I was with my niece in the city centre of Edinburgh on a very busy day. When I woke up that day I knew that I was extra sensitive to the things around me which makes the anxiety worse. And sure enough, when I was in the middle of a Primark store, I could take it anymore. I told my niece, who actually knows about my anxiety, that I had to get away from the people for a minute. Luckily, there was a park across the street so we went in the park and sat on the grass. I opened my Calm app and breathed for a couple of minutes.

Now, I know that there aren’t onvenient parks everywhere. I was very lucky for this. But you can go to the bathroom or any other room then the room you are in. And if you are outside then find a quiet spot you can calm down. It is worth it trust me.

After my little breakdown in the park and my breathing exercises I felt so much better. The extra sensitivity was gone, and I could enjoy the day again. It all comes down to either letting yourself have the breakdown or not but calming down after. Try to adjust what I told you to make it the best for you.

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Another thing that helps me a lot is reading books, watching shows or films. It is a way of not dealing with your own life for a minute and focus on someone else’s. This is a temporary solution! It will not ‘fix’ your anxiety. But, on stressful days it can help calm you down. I know some people don’t like to read or watch shows and films, but, I am sure that there is something else that can take your mind of the stressful thoughts.

You don’t have to get outdoors either. Unless, all your hobbies are outdoors but then it shouldn’t be a problem for you because you are going to do something you like. Even working out, get your heart rate up, is a good way to lose some stress. Just try it.

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I saved the most difficult one for last. It will take a lot of strength and motivation that you may not have at first. Stand infront of a mirror and talk to yourself. Weird, I know. But I am serious. Nothing negative but all positive thig. I want you to tell yourself that you are strong. That you CAN accomplish things. Tell yourself that tomorrow you are going to go to that event you where thinking about bailing on for days now. Do this every day. Stand there for 5-10 minutes hyping yourself up.

Why did I say this is the most difficult one? Because, you have to start believing what you tell yourself. When you tell yourself you are strong, feel strong. When you tell yourself you are an amazing human being, feel amazing. Because you are.

 

I hope I helped, even if it is only one of you. Anxiety can suck. If any of my tips helped you, let me know. Or if you have something that helps that I didn’t mention please let me know as well!

 

What to read this fall!

What to read this fall!

The best feeling in the world is to just grab a cup of tea, lay back and read a good book. It is time to let yourself relax. I looked on my bookshelf and chose five books that I am going to try to read during fall. Will you  take on this challenge with me?

 

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  1. Red Sparrow – Jason Matthews
    I think most of you will already know about the movie that has come out with Jennifer Lawrence called Red Sparrow. What I did not know is that it’s a book as well. Naturally, I must read the book first before watching the movie.For everyone who does not know about this movie/book, it is about State intelligence officer Dominika Egorova. Against her will she is trained to become a ‘sparrow’, a seductress in the service of the bureaucracy of post-Soviet intelligence. She has gotten an assignment. To operate against Nathanel Nash, a CIA-officer who happens to deal with Russian Intelligence. When the two spies collide will it end in a war between spies or in an exciting romance?

 

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  1. Throne of Glass – Sarah J. Maas
    Most of the fantasy lovers out there will probably already have read this. I haven’t, yet, but I sure am excited to read it!The book is about an assassin named Celaena Sardothien. She wants to win her freedom from the ferocious king ruling from his throne of glass. She must defeat twenty-three killers, warriors and thieves in a game to see who is the greatest assassin in the king’s land. Will she win her freedom and be released from prison? When her competitors start dying, Celaena needs to fight for survival rather then freedom.

 

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  1. Fight Club – Chuck Palahniuk
    I think we all know the film where Brad Pitt plays a guy who sells soap and beats some other guys in a basement. It has been a long time that this book has been on my bookshelf unread. Too long, some might say.You follow Jack, an insurance inspector who suffers from insomnia. He wants to escape his boring life. Trying to do so, he meets Tyler, a soap selling charismatic man who has a bizarre way of living life.  Being, that self-improvement is not the way to go. In his rule book it says that self-destruction is the key to the value of life. Together they organize the so called ‘Fight clubs’ where ordinary regular guys beat the crap out of each other with their bare hands. Will this end well?

 

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  1. The hitchhiker’s guide to the galaxy – Douglas Adams
    This book makes me very excited for summer. I have wanted to read this for a while now.Arthur Dent’s house gets demolished which does not sound fun at all. But, when the earth follows, the story really begins. The earth has made way for a hyperspace bypass and Arthur is hurtling trough space with his best friend who has just announced to be an alien. The only thing to focus on is this book with two words on it – DON’T PANIC –.

 

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  1. The Dark Tower: The Gunslinger– Stephen King
    Don’t hate me but this will be my first Stephen King book. I know. Incredible.The Gunslinger is now a movie as well. Therefore, people might already know this story. Just in case: the last gunslinger named Roland is looking for the man in black in a world similar to the old west. He stumbles on Jake Chambers, a young boy, and together they continue the quest for the man in black and saving the dark tower.